Finding Purpose In Waiting | The Trick To Making Life Work For You
Updated: Dec 4, 2019
I'm not quite sure how to begin this post; but, I thought since I've been going through a rough time I would share.
These past few months I've been in tears on a daily basis. I’ve faced difficulties getting out of bed, and to top it all off, I have absolutely no idea if what I'm doing with my life is "right" anymore.
For most of us, we call these moments "being stuck in a rut". Sure, we have those few good days that make it seem like life is ok; but, eventually, the other shoe drops and that faux stability fades.
So, what do you do when you feel like you've made a step in purpose but nothing seems to be working out the way you thought?
Do you shift gears into something different? Or do you actively try your hardest to pursue what it is you think you should be doing?
Recently, I’ve been questioning what to do and honestly, it’s just something I haven’t figured out yet.
The only solid answer I came up with was to wait. For most of us, waiting means to do nothing. But I've been talking to my family and they always say - "Keep moving until God stops you”.
It's through those conversations that I've realized how waiting actually means to work -- and if you're like me (totally unsure if what you're doing at this moment is right), you have to keep pressing onward until you literally can't go any farther.
In hard times, it's easy to sit back and say, "I have no idea how things are going to happen so I'll just wait until the answers come my way." It's also easy to say, "Nothing's going the way I've planned; so, I'll stop and give up."
Trust me, I've been here many times, but most of the time I end up asking myself..."What are you doing to prepare?"
Often we don't really take advantage of the moments we have while waiting because we're so consumed by the things NOT happening in our lives. However, we have to wait in purpose. Yes, things may be at a halt right now; but that doesn’t mean to give up!
Use those moments of nothingness to actively prepare yourself, so that when the time comes for whatever you’re waiting for, you’re actually ready for the moment.
If you want to model, build your portfolio. If you want to sing, sign up for vocal lessons. Start studying to be that doctor! When the time comes and when the right door opens, with preparation you'll be ready to seize the opportunity without hesitation.
You see, waiting is all about perspective. I’ve realized that I can’t get weighed down by the way things look. I simply have to be thankful for the way things are (My dad taught me this one :)). Despite those feelings of inadequacy or not doing enough, preparing yourself until your dreams happen will always prove to be way more beneficial than just throwing in the towel.
Life has been no joke. I've been challenged and stretched beyond what I could've ever imagined — in my relationships, in my finances, in my career, and in my personal life and I've had to learn to be patient and trust in the wait.
Purposeful waiting is a beautiful thing. It produces perseverance, growth, and most of all it expands your trust. Sometimes, we don't even realize that "the wait" is meant to show us things about ourselves that we need to work on. Sometimes, it allows us to find better opportunities ------ one's we couldn’t even dream of! Sometimes... waiting even gives us room to do things and work on projects or business plans that we never would've had time for if we weren't at a "standstill".
So, to any of our friends having a tough time waiting and dealing with feelings of uncertainty... keep moving, keep preparing, and try to be thankful for every moment!
We're all in this together and rooting for you to win!